Jessica Sepel Shares Her Guide to Holiday Wellness

“We sometimes feel pressure to fill our days off with so many activities we forget to take some time for ourselves.”

Article by T Australia

JESSICA SEPELThe founder of JSHealth Vitamins Jessica Sepel. Photographs courtesy of JSHealth Vitamins.

For many, the summer holidays herald a period of beach visits, barbecues and layers of powerfully scented insect repellent. They also go hand-in-hand with Christmas parties, New Years Eve extravaganzas and a general disregard for any semblance of balance we’ve spent the past year painstakingly cultivating. Enter: Jessica Sepel.

The founder of JSHealth Vitamins, Sepel spends her days immersed in the world of health-driven supplements, mindful eating recipes and writing (she is the three-time best-selling health author of “The Healthy Life”, “Living the Healthy Life” and “The 12 Step Mind Body Food Reset”). As we countdown to Christmas, T Australia sat down with Sepel to talk about her personal journey to JSHealth Vitamins, the challenges the industry faces, the three supplements everyone should be taking and her top tips for looking after ourselves during the silly season.

Tell us about your journey to the wellness space and launching JSHealth.

I have always had a passion for vitamins and supplements and nutrition in general, so in some respects I guess the eventual launch of JSHealth Vitamins was somewhat written into my future before I realised. JSHealth launched as a private blog, part of my personal journey to finding a healthier relationship to food and wellness in general. What grew from there was the most incredible community, which remains the heart and soul of everything I do.

What is the founding philosophy behind JSHealth?

It’s a wellness movement so sustainable, enjoyable, accessible, personalised and results-driven that it will last a lifetime. No fad diets, no restriction! We hero body love, kindness, balance and flexibility. I’m also passionate about showing people that living The Healthy Life doesn’t need to be complicated – you can make simple, easy and delicious meals, and it’s the  small, consistent habits that are key.

Can you tell us about your own supplement regimen – what’s currently on your personal rotation?

Recognising and respecting your unique health needs and wellness goals is the cornerstone of creating a routine that works best for you – it’s not a one-size-fits-all approach. However, there are three supplements that I recommend most people invest in as they simply feel better when ingesting them. These are a quality probiotic, magnesium and fish oil. Everyone seems to feel better when taking those three.

I also love recommending an inner beauty and vitality powder that contains ingredients such as marine collagen combined with potent antioxidants, nutrients and minerals to help you to feel amazing from the inside out. Our skin health, hair health and energy really does start from within.

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Photograph courtesy of JSHealth Vitamins.

Australians are heading into the festive season – a period of time that also collides with the start of summer. What are some ways we can look after ourselves better during the holiday period?

I recommend the following to help balance this very busy time of year:

No Guilt: Our philosophy is all about balance. It is so important to remove any restriction or deprivation, and allow yourself to enjoy all foods in moderation. Letting go of the guilt is a very important part of The Healthy Life. Be kind to yourself.

Greens Formula: A daily quality greens powder is a great “insurance policy” for your veggie intake! Our Greens + Collagen powder is a delicious blend of green superfoods plus hydrolysed marine collagen – simply combine with water or put it into your favourite smoothie.

Slow mornings: Allow yourself the luxury of slow, grounding mornings. Savour the taste of your coffee, meditate, journal or simply sit in silence. These quiet moments can set the tone for the rest of your day.

Saying no to plans: Remember, it’s okay to prioritise your needs. If you need rest, it’s perfectly fine to decline invitations. Your wellbeing always comes first.

Nature walks: There’s nothing quite like the healing power of nature. A gentle walk outside can do wonders for your mental and emotional health.

Liver love: After indulging in the season’s delights, our bodies may appreciate getting back into our usual routines. Embrace a gentle post-celebration reset with a detox and bloat support formula containing ingredients like fennel seed (to relieve abdominal bloating), plus milk thistle and turmeric (for liver support).

Savour the season: Enjoy your favourite indulgences, while continuing to make healthy choices. Make an effort to eat nutritious food, but also make an effort to indulge and enjoy – this is so important to strengthen your relationship with food and your body.

You’re a three-time best-selling author – what does the writing and publishing experience offer you in addition to your business and brand work?

My book deals truly gave me the belief in myself to keep going and the opportunity to put my writing and advice into “bricks and mortar”. There’s something so special about holding and reading a physical book. It also has been a powerful vessel for me to share my story. It really did elevate the JSHealth philosophy to reach a mass audience on a global scale.

Mindful eating is a core tenet of your approach – what food do you gravitate towards during the summer months?

Summer is such a wonderful time for delicious, balanced eating. So many of the fresh fruits and vegetables that are in season in the warmer months are bursting with nutrients, making it easier than ever to fill your diet with key vitamins and minerals. Australian summers with fresh produce and seafood, along with some enjoying of hot weather delights, like ice creams and glasses of cold rosé… my favourite.

How Our Brains Are Hardwired to Compare

A LinkedIn doomscroll leads to an exploration of judgement, happiness and the comparison trap.

Article by Joseph Lew

GUCCI TWINSIdentical twins walk the runway at Gucci's Spring Summer 23 show, hosted at Milan Fashion Week. Photography courtesy Gucci.

My latest unhealthy obsession is browsing LinkedIn before bed. But for a platform that boasts functionality, I only use it for the one feature. Two little heads sit at the top of my screen, with the words ‘My Network’ written below. My fingers are drawn to the tab instinctively and before I know it, many circular headshots fill my screen. I click through the profiles, some shorter, some longer, pausing to scan where people are working, what date they graduated, how many years of experience they have. My night always ends the same way: I go to bed feeling inadequate in comparison.

Back in the ‘90s, Richard Easterlin, an economics professor at the University of Pennsylvania conducted analysis of almost 25 years’ worth of happiness data from the United States. He presumed that as there was a direct correlation between happiness and income, changes to income over time would lead to greater levels of wellbeing. Instead he discovered a paradox: despite a pattern of steadily increasing income wealth, the average happiness levels in the country had barely changed.

“It’s not to do with absolute wealth, it’s about relative wealth,” says Nichola Raihani, a social researcher and author of “The Social Instinct: How Cooperation Shaped the World”. “Feeling that you’re doing a little bit better than your peers is associated with increased wellbeing, and conversely, feeling you’re doing worse than other people in society is associated with reduced wellbeing.” As Raihani explains, it’s all about comparative positioning. Easterlin’s Paradox shows us that we’re more concerned with whether we’re sitting in a better spot than someone else, than whether we have a seat in the first place.

Although Easterlin’s research focuses on income, our tendency to overlook our absolute position in favour of a relative one can be found everywhere. Late last year when reality TV star and beauty entrepreneur Kylie Jenner confirmed her second pregnancy, I spiralled. My thought process went along the lines of ‘she’s only three years older than me and she’s already having her second child, and she’s got two children and I have none’. For a brief moment, I had conveniently forgotten that I didn’t really even want children in the first place. When we’re confronted with surface level portrayals of people’s successes and achievements on social media, it’s easy to feel inadequate. But perhaps this comparison trap is no fault of my own.

Although conceptions of what is considered fair may be shaped by our cultural upbringing, the rejection of unequal outcomes appears to be universal. In a 2015 study, pairs of children from across Canada, India, Mexico, Peru, Senegal, Uganda, and the United States were given the same task: to sit across from each other while treats were placed before them in uneven portions. One of the children in the pair would be assigned the choice of either pulling a green handle to accept the allocated portions, or pulling a red handle to reject them, meaning neither child would get anything. In all seven countries, children would opt for the red.

The answer to why our comparative judgement transcends culture may lie in the way our species operates. According to Raihani, as we evolved collaboratively, social comparison was a means for us to monitor our status within society, and to preserve our place amongst potential competitors. She refers to the example of the Efe pygmies, a hunter-gatherer people living within the Ituri Rainforest of the Democratic Republic of Congo, who share meat in a meritocratic way — “the hunter who shoots the first arrow gets most of the meat, followed by the person whose dog chased the prey, and so on”. By being able to recognise and reject unfair outcomes humans were able to ensure better chances of survival for ourselves and our offspring, from greater allocations of food to lower birth mortality rates.

In footage from a TED Talk published in 2011, a scientist stands in front of a rectangular enclosure, separated into two sections by a wire panel, each housing small brown capuchin monkey. The monkeys have been trained to hand the scientist a rock through circular cut-outs in the clear plexiglass screen in exchange for a food item, either a piece of cucumber or a grape — they prefer the grape. The monkey on the left performs the exchange and is rewarded with a piece of cucumber. The one on the right follows, but it receives a grape instead. The monkey on the left repeats, and once again, is rewarded with a cucumber. He holds the cucumber to his mouth, looks to the other monkey, then tosses the cucumber back at the scientist before rattling the screen. This repeats itself.

This humorous short video is central to the debate of whether social comparison is limited to the remit of the human species. Although some researchers use this video as evidence of the behaviour across species, Raihani disagrees, noting that conclusions drawn from studies like this are flawed in one big way. “We often project our own human feelings and how we would feel in that situation onto those monkeys,” she says. “You can’t rule out that the monkey basically just sees a grape, and because it knows that a grape is available, it rejects the cucumber.” In other words, until monkeys can speak, it’s impossible to know whether the behaviour is motivated by relative wealth rather than absolute wealth.

For humans, even in today’s society, status remains an evolutionarily relevant currency. When we’re doom-scrolling through LinkedIn, Raihani explains we’re subconsciously creating a mental hierarchy, enabling us to monitor how we fit in relative to others within our social circles. Social comparison allows us to evaluate our social networks, and determine which relationships serve us and which don’t. “Keeping tabs of ‘do you always end with more than me’ in any interaction is a heuristic that people use to evaluate and to potentially choose interaction partners,” says Raihani. “Those concerns and needs haven’t disappeared just because many of us now live in industrialised societies; our success still massively depends on our ability to work together and working together in a fair way is often the key to having a productive social relationship.”

Being able to recognise the trap of relativity doesn’t protect us from it. Social comparison is ingrained in our human psyche making it as unavoidable as it is universal. But its pertinence in our consciousness serves as a constant reminder of the human condition — an evolutionary blast from the past. And in instances such as this, when my LinkedIn-motivated inadequacy drives me to write an article, I’d like to think social comparison has even greater use than that.

Is Risk The Cure to Our Mass Languishing?

Amid global upheaval, a daily routine has never been more alluring — but chaos and unpredictability may be as essential to our psychological wellbeing as they are inescapable.

Article by Helen Hawkes

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Of all the songs that have emerged from pandemic life, it is perhaps Em Beihold’s “Numb Little Bug” — a track that went viral on TikTok — that best reflects an unsettling aspect of the current collective psyche. “Do you ever get a little bit tired of life?” asks the artist. “Like, you’re not really happy but you don’t wanna die?” Catchy pop production aside, the song’s lyrics give voice to a kind of mental and emotional fatigue that psychologists refer to as “languishing”. It’s the opposite of flourishing; or as Dr Amantha Imber, an organisational psychologist and the founder of the behavioural science consultancy Inventium, describes it: “You’re not waking up and jumping out of bed.”

The unpredictable nature of the world we live in — climate change and the likelihood of more extreme bushfires and floods, coupled with international conflict and Covid-19 — might be to blame for this mass ennui. Or is it the safety culture we have unwittingly slid into (even before the pandemic), a way of life that discourages us from taking the risks necessary for individual and collective progress? In the book “Safe Enough: Managing Risk and Regulation” (2000), the academic Mark Neal argues that risk aversion in Western society has become “both the norm and the key fin-de-siecle cultural value”. Human existence has always been a risky affair, he says, but in bygone times the culture reflected these perils and they were considered part of life.

“In Victorian society, people did not expect to live to a ripe old age and were relatively stoic about the real and immediate risks to their lives they were confronted with daily,” he writes, adding that even as late as the early 20th century, “the incidence of death in childbirth was high, infant mortality was high and the risks of death from influenza and tuberculosis were high”.

As the standard of life improved, people began to rethink their relationships, circumstances and place in society. Simply put, we began to expect more, with less risk. “Every day we are exposed to accounts of instant wealth, instant beauty, instant perfection,” Neal writes. “People are brought up to seek individual growth, to express themselves with no regard to self-control or restrictions — in other words, to expect health and happiness.”

As the author and cultural critic Virginia Heffernan sees it, humans are not disposed to radical departures from their daily rounds. And so we seek excitement in efficiency. As she argues in Politico magazine: “the recent fantasy of ‘optimising’ a life — for peak performance, productivity, efficiency — has created a cottage industry that tries to make the dreariest possible lives sound heroic.” What if, instead of turning to bestsellers for tips on automating our behaviours, from bed-making to business meetings, we sought joy in spontaneity? If it’s a meaningful life we seek, Heffernan argues that we must take a more expansive and braver approach to our everyday existence.

The quest for a life less ordinary has been complicated by the pandemic, of course, during which health restrictions made our world safer but tamer. By promoting solitude to reduce the spread of the virus, policy necessarily deprived us of the intoxicating chaos of uninhibited mingling with other members of the human race. And we’re still feeling the effects of those restrictions today, says Imber. “Post-lockdowns, we have become very sensitised to external stimuli. A large variety of sounds and people, even on a commute, can be overwhelming.”

In August last year, more than 40 per cent of us were regularly working from home, reports the Australian Bureau of Statistics, a trend it predicted would continue after the pandemic. There can be little less exciting than, day after day, finishing breakfast then walking a few steps to the home office (or even staying at the kitchen table) for Zoom meetings. Likewise, binge-watching Netflix is no substitute for music festivals, think-tank conferences or other events where the atmosphere vibrates with ideas and possibilities. So why is it that, although most Australians are fully vaccinated, our lives have been reduced to the living room?

Is it because we are encouraged to feel fragile? In “Safe Enough”, published more than two decades ago, Neal writes that those who perpetuate controversies relating to industrial products and processes, be it overhead powerlines, alcohol, food additives, cars, sugar, salt, mobile phones, soft drinks or water purity, contribute to our intolerance of risk. If it is a more spontaneous, joyful life we seek, it may be necessary to step back from the gory headlines and prophecies of doom.

Granted, we are not immune to dangers or natural disasters (the United Nations predicts the latter will occur about 1.5 times a day globally by 2030) but, in spite of what we may believe, we are actually living longer, healthier, safer, wealthier, freer and more peaceful lives than those who came before us.

“In Australia, we don’t have bombs flying or snipers on the street,” says Nick Enfield, a professor of linguistics at the University of Sydney and the inaugural director of the Sydney Social Sciences and Humanities Advanced Research Centre. “Yet we resist the idea that some aspects of our lives, including personal growth, are anti-fragile and need to be pushed to get stronger.” Research shows that emotional resilience is enhanced when people undergo multiple experiences of stress over time because they develop coping strategies that can be called on in the future. In other words, the confidence that helps us step outside our safety zone and discover the thrill of living functions like a muscle, growing stronger with use.

Dr Glenn Singleman, a physician and professional adventurer, believes habits may be the greatest risk to personal fulfilment. “Never taking opportunities for self-actualisation is one of the tragedies of life,” he says. “We are lucky enough to live in a world where we have that possibility — many other cultures have to worry about food or shelter — but how many people actually pursue that?” He and his partner, the author Heather Swan, are passionate about extreme sports; by climbing rocks and jumping off mountains, they engage with fear so that they might learn to overcome it. “The level of self-awareness spreads out into the rest of our life,” says Singleman. He and Swan recently helped set up a skydiving program in Antarctica and quit the city to buy a 40-hectare farm.

For Mackenzie Casey, an Australian entrepreneur who founded the peer-to-peer fashion app HUMM in New York at age 20, being in the exact same position in your career or relationship in a year’s time is a lot more scary than doing something outside of your comfort zone. Two years after she created the app, Casey raised two rounds of funding by pitching to more than 100 venture capitalists from Silicon Valley to New York. “Standing in front of a roomful of accomplished businesspeople, I couldn’t help but feel overwhelmed. But the thought of living a life in fear and not taking a risk far outweighed the possibilities of ‘What if?’,” she says.

The social entrepreneur John Wood faced a similar decision. Following a trip to Nepal, he shocked his colleagues by abandoning his role as a director of business development at Microsoft to found the global nonprofit Room to Read, having promised a headmaster he would return to the country with books for his students. Wood’s organisation now improves literacy and gender equality for more than 23 million children in low-income countries. Reflecting on his decision, he says he had two options: remain in tech or “jump out of the aeroplane and pray that the parachute would deploy”.

Of course, the solution to overcoming fear and a life of mediocrity is not necessarily to leave your job or take up adventure sports. It could mean committing to a challenge that matters to you — a project you find interesting or a worthwhile goal, such as developing a better relationship — and re-thinking rigid patterns of behaviour while respecting some fundamental structures. Expanding your comfort zone should be done slowly and systematically. As Singleman points out: “We are risk managers, not risk takers, who learn the rules of a sport before engaging in it.”

Researchers have posited that thrillseekers may have a variant of the D4DR gene that makes them less sensitive to feel-good dopamine and more likely to seek stimulation, however study results are inconclusive. Rather, epigenetics suggests that our behaviour determines how our genes help write the story of our lives. This means that any one of us may benefit from adopting a bolder philosophy. In the Politico article, Heffernan urges readers to consider the work of the Nobel Prize winner Albert Camus. Recognising that the universe refuses to comply with our natural desire for order and meaning, Camus argued that we must learn to live in the present moment and to take ownership of our individuality — essentially, to live as rebels.

Perhaps the pandemic and perils of climate change will force us to realise a stark reality: life is short and we had better make the most of it. Is it possible that the restrictions we’ve lived through could inspire us to become more innovative, adaptive and resilient? They might prompt some of us to turn our back on behaviours that weren’t serving us. Looking abroad, there is anecdotal evidence of people abandoning safe but boring nine-to-five jobs and starting the business they always dreamed of, and of partners leaving unsatisfying relationships to strike out on their own.

Harnessing our “anti-fragility” may lead us somewhere we once considered too extreme, expensive or risky, whether it’s moving countries or founding a not-for-profit. To start, Swan proposes a tandem skydive or a hot air balloon flight at sunrise; this, she says, will blow away the cobwebs and reveal what’s been hiding beneath. History is rich with examples of risk takers who changed the world, from Amelia Earhart to Harvey Milk and Greta Thunberg. It remembers few who chose the well-trodden, but dull, path.

If you or someone you know is struggling with depression and anxiety, help is available from Lifeline on 13 11 14 and Beyond Blue, 1300 224 636.

This is an extract from an article that appears in print in our seventh edition, Page 44 of T Australia with the headline: “The Rewards of Risk”

What the virus has taught us about connection

In an age of ‘disruptors’, the pandemic has taught us the true meaning of disruption. But to weather the next crisis, we’ll need to absorb an additional lesson: the value of human connection.

Article by Helen Hawkes

Human connection virusA Google search yields a wealth of blogs not only about the virus and vaccines, but also on the theme of how to be happy post-pandemic. Photography courtesy Adobe.

As we go forward into 2022, it’s easy to feel as if we have been cast in a movie for which there is no script. Our lives, disrupted by QR codes, travel restrictions, mandated vaccinations, self-isolation requirements and working from home, have still not returned to normal.

Some of us have clung onto the hope that science will save us, or that the economy will rebound. But many are struggling with depression and anxiety, which are epidemic right now: cases globally increased more than 25 per cent during the first year of the pandemic, according to a University of Queensland-led study.

As Omicron rages, an undercurrent of paranoia lingers in human relationships. When was the last time a stranger, or even a friend, gave you a hug? (Some 64 per cent of us miss hugging the most, according to research by Oracle Australia.)

“Everyone is still anxious, to varying degrees, and the question is, how are we going to come out of it?” says Professor Joy Damousi, a historian and director of the Australian Catholic University’s Institute for Humanities and Social Sciences.

“In other global crises, such as World War I and II and the Great Depression, we were also plagued by uncertainty and obsessed with what the future would look like.” She adds: “We all want to know what the answers are, but there are no answers yet. One thing the pandemic has taught us is that anything could be around the corner.”

NAVIGATING A PRECARIOUS WORLD

It was in late December 2019 that the first cases of Covid-19 were reported in Wuhan, China, and from that trickle of concern came the greatest shock to our health and psyche, and economies globally, in recent times.

What makes recovery particularly difficult is that most humans don’t handle uncertainty well, says Edwin Trevor-Roberts, a career-management consultant and the chair of the Centre for Work, Organisation and Wellbeing advisory board at Griffith University. “We’re simply not wired for it,” he says. “Neuroscience has shown that we have a threat response in our brain when we experience uncertainty and do everything in our power to try and reduce it.”

Healing the collective mind may prove to be as challenging as rebooting global economies or shoring up the health of the most vulnerable in our community. A Google search yields a wealth of blogs not only about the virus and vaccines, but also on the theme of how to be happy post-pandemic. In the wake of the trauma we’ve experienced, and in the face of future threats — such as virus variants and ongoing government controls, coupled with significant climate change events — it would be trite to suggest that contentment can be achieved in a few simple steps.

Life can seem precarious when we consider that our wellbeing may be dependent on the development of additional vaccines or all countries signing a climate pledge, says Adam Piovarchy, a lecturer in philosophy at the University of Sydney and a research associate at the University of Notre Dame. “However, in general, despair is not the right approach,” he says. “We still have a lot of valuable things in our lives that we can nourish and attend to.”

While it’s unlikely to be all sunny days from here on, one question worth asking is what makes life good, suggests Piovarchy. “It may be pleasurable sensations or experiences, such as eating out at restaurants or seeing a concert, or having our desires satisfied by having good friends, a loving family or success in our career.”

He adds: “But it can also be our judgement about life as a whole. Regularly engaging with things that are positive is a skill that can be practised over time.” This, he says, helps us become better at dealing with challenges.

On another positive note, Professor Andrew Dawson, a social commentator and the chair of anthropology at the University of Melbourne, believes that, when harnessed correctly, crises and the uneasiness they create can be a force for change. “For example, the Spanish Flu pandemic led to the development of socialised medicine,” he says.

At the same time, Dawson acknowledges that there are erstwhile intimacies that may be forever transformed. “Will we ever shake hands again in a post-pandemic world, where the modern myth of the bounded body is likely to be replaced by a renewed awareness of its essential porousness?” he asks.

REBUILDING HUMAN CONNECTION

The landscape architect Sam Barber, who has long expressed his philosophies for wellbeing and restoration through his designs, has never been busier than he is right now. He says clients are recruiting him to reimagine spaces, both public and private, as they consider how they want to live post-pandemic.

Rather than create built environments where separation perpetuates isolation, Barber’s designs facilitate a connection with nature. In this way, they not only nurture people, they also prompt social interaction — something public health orders have discouraged over the past two years.

“Isolation equals chaos,” he says, “which has the propensity to fuel addictions and mental health issues; the opposite to that is connection — with family, friends, peers, colleagues and nature.”

He adds: “Contemporary life continues to evolve, and unforeseen challenges will continue to surface, but human-centred environments are integral to mental health and wellbeing.” As Trevor-Roberts sees it, those who thrive in the uncertain future that lays before us may actually be those who are the most connected, rather than the fittest.

Joseph Campbell’s 1949 book, “The Hero With a Thousand Faces”, analyses the archetypal hero’s journey, in which a character crosses into a challenging, unfamiliar world and receives the assistance of a mentor and allies in their quest to return home. This plotline is universal, occurring in every culture at every time, says the story analyst Christopher Vogler. It poses multiple questions, including: what will tomorrow be like?

Damousi, who describes herself as an optimistic person, believes that not only will the majority of us weather the changes brought about by the pandemic, some of us may even bounce back with renewed energy, determined to make the most of life because it is short. “That may mean leaving a job, especially if it involves a two-hour commute, reorganising relationships and looking at where we really want to put our time.”

Microsoft research shows that more than 40 per cent of the global workforce is considering leaving their employer — #TheGreatResignation — while anecdotal evidence points to thousands of people having already abandoned permanent homes (#VanLife).

Dawson suggests that rather than focus on individual healing, we should consider redirecting our anxieties and widening our lens. “We know now that Covid-19 affects disproportionately those groups which are ethnically, socioeconomically and geopolitically marginal,” he says. “Yet where in its wake is the serious debate about addressing these inequalities?”

In the mythological tradition, the hero who returns to the “ordinary world” and does not have something to share — an elixir, of sorts — is seen to be unenlightened. In fact, the journey is meaningless unless the hero comes back with love, freedom, wisdom or the knowledge that the uncertain world exists and can be survived — elixirs so powerful that the whole world is changed by their existence.

A version of this article appears in print in our fifth edition, Page 38 of T Australia with the headline:
“What We Take From The Virus”
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The Silent Epidemic of Productivity Guilt

In a society that values the destination, not the journey, a new book by writer Madeleine Dore looks at how to avoid suffering from productivity guilt.

Article by Lucy E Cousins

Photography by Carl Heyerdahl.

When writer Madeleine Dore first tried to increase her productivity levels, she decided to join the “5am Club”. She would rise earlier than usual, begin her day on the right foot and, hopefully, work smarter not harder. The problem was, she says, that technique just doesn’t suit her personality.

“Every evening, I’d find myself drafting this perfect routine for myself for the next day, but then in the morning I’d snooze through my alarm and I’d spiral,” she explains. “Essentially I felt like I’d already failed. I had started the day with failure.”

The experience led her to start questioning people she perceived as successful and productive, asking them for their secret. But what she quickly learned was that there is no secret, no magic app, and no quick fix.

“I found that the more people I spoke to, the more I realised that we all have these shared stumbles and shared doubts and we all feel like we’re not doing it right!,” she laughs. “So, it really led me to ask the question, where does this productivity guilt, this “not doing enough” mentality actually come from?”

The answer to that is the subject of her latest book, “I Didn’t Do the Thing Today – On Letting Go of Productivity Guilt” (Murdoch Books), which brings together the lessons she learned from over five years of research into the subject.

The main takeaway, she says, is to step away from rendering ourselves perfect, because “we’ll never get there”. Perfection, she adds, is like chasing a mirage.

“At the end of the day, society has this blanket expectation that we can all be these perfect robots with this perfect output or consistency,” she explains. “But actually we all vary, and our days vary, so it’s about finding approaches that can be malleable to those variances.”

Dore sat down with T Australia to share her thoughts on the idea of perfection, how to avoid productivity guilt and how to recognise if you’re spiraling.

I Didn’t Do the Thing Today – On Letting Go of Productivity Guilt” (Murdoch Books) is out now.
Author Madeleine Dore spend five years researching the topic for her latest publication.

Can you tell us a little more about your new book?

 “Yes, well, this book is the culmination of a long journey through searching for the secret to productivity. Like many people, I was trying every hack that I could find to be more productive and be more prolific. And I kept falling short. So I turned my attention to asking people that I admired how they do what they do. And I thought that getting people’s routines would be the way that I could do that best because I could find out what they do when they do it, how they do it. And then I could find the rest for productivity and success.”

And, did you discover the secret?

“No! As it turns out this book is a collection all of the lessons I learned along the way and it really looks at this idea that most of us have internalised productivity to be a measure of our worth when really it’s just one of many byproducts to living well. But this book is not about productivity necessarily being a bad thing, we all need to do things, it’s more about productivity guilt and where that stems from and how we can untether from that idea that productivity is a measure of our worth.”

And where do you think this guilt stems from?

“I think it comes from being in a society that does measure our sense of worth and value by how much we do and who we do it for. But there’s also these stumbling blocks associated with productivity. For example, we set these great expectations for ourselves, and when we fall short, we internalise this idea that we’re not measuring up. Other stumbling blocks are comparison to other people and also this idea of perfection.”

Who do you think is mainly affected by productivity guilt?

“I think it comes in very different forms. So, anyone who’s felt that kind of pressure. For example, a student who feels the pressure to achieve a certain grade or someone who works for themselves and feels this pressure to find more clients or to fit more in. It could be someone who’s newly working from home who is having to adjust to the distinction between work and homelife. It can affect all of us in different ways and in different circumstances, but collectively we’re having this shared experience.”

In the book you speak about the productivity spiral, could you please explain that?

“Well, the productivity spiral would be when there’s something that you’ve said that you will do at a specific time, and then you find yourself not doing it when you said you’d do it. So instead of actually adjusting the timeline and perhaps going for a walk to clear your mind, instead you become completely stifled in that anxiety or that guilt and you do nothing at all. When we’re very rigid with how we think we should act, it’s the rigidity that can push us down that spiral.

And so, in order to avoid this spiral, do productivity apps or outsourcing help?

“Well, when you encounter tools or tips that really resonate, then I think that’s wonderful, but it’s when you find yourself turning to these tips and tricks or apps as something that’s going to “fix you” or  “improve you” that they could be less helpful. And if you try them and don’t succeed, then it becomes another reason for blaming ourselves for not being good enough. So the very thing that we were looking towards for help becomes another reason that we don’t measure up. That’s where we become quite entangled in all of these tips, because we’re putting them on a pedestal that they’re going to be the very solution when actually we need to embrace our imperfections and the messiness and the mistakes that we’ll inevitably make.”

So, what’s the one thing you’ve learned about being in a productivity guilt spiral?

“Well, I think it comes back to this idea of being flexible. I think the epiphany for me was when I realised that at the beginning I was really looking at how I could be more creative and productive, however the really big takeaway was that the people I interviewed aren’t measuring their day by their output, they look at it through a creative lens. And we need to learn to live inside the creative process, even if we don’t see ourselves as creative. That’s really acknowledging that there’s an ebb and flow to our days and our energy, our attention, our output, and seeing that there’s value in each of those stages.

So for me, I tried to shift things so I measure my day by creativity, curiosity and learning and I try to deepen my day rather than trying to fix myself or sticking to a ridged plan. This idea of a creative lens is far more accessible because you can define creativity for yourself; you are being creative with the ingredients that you’ve got rather than trying to follow the instructions from someone else. That means you can be more open to surprise and epiphany.”

What’s the best way to move forward at the beginning of the year when a lot of people would like to make a few changes?

“Well, it’s interesting, because at the heart of this book is this idea of letting go of constant striving to “change and fix” ourselves and this constant upward trajectory of improvement as that tends to keep us stuck where we are. Instead of actually making us better, it can increase feelings of burnout and overwhelming anxiety. What about deepening your day instead? Going for run or a sunset stroll, and just delighting in small pleasures.

We’ve all had such a difficult time [over the past two years], and so finding ways to embed joy into our day might be refreshing compared to those constant resolutions, which are always geared to changing something that we don’t like about ourselves. Let’s talk instead about cultivating delightful discipline; we’re so much more motivated when we enjoy something. Of course, there’ll be things that we need to do that we don’t want to do, but if we can make it more delightful or joyful, it’s far more motivating in the long run.”

 

I Didn’t Do the Thing Today – On Letting Go of Productivity Guilt”, $32.99, Murdoch Books, is out now.